A lot of people have been buzzing today about the tragic, awful incident that occurred in Auburn yesterday, resulting in the death of a toddler. Here’s what has been reported. All we basically know is that a woman named Kim Malpass, who lived in section 8 housing with three of her own children and three foster kids, came screaming outside at 1 PM with two of her foster children in her arms unresponsive. One of them passed away.
Personally, we wanted to wait until more came out before we wrote about this because the details matter. A lot. But for now we’re going to defend the foster mother because it’s become so fashionable to shit on her. Here’s some of the comments on it:
if u don’t have enough money to care for themselves or their kids, they shouldn’t be able to foster kids.
how do u do foster care in a state aided homes something doesn’t sound right here
How do you need section 8 but have three foster kids in your home??? Seems screwed up a little to me?
What is a single women doing with 6 foster kids?
I’m not gonna lie, when I first saw this story, I had the same reaction. But the more I thought about it the more I realized that I really didn’t know the first thing about it.
Look, any person who takes in foster kids is a good person. I don’t care if they get money for the state for it or whatever. You couldn’t pay me enough money to do what this woman apparently did routinely. So who am I to judge to her? There were children in need and she stepped up to the plate while I wrote blogs all day.
And that’s the bottom line here. These kids were needy. They obviously came from fucked up, less than ideal situations if they ended up in foster care. So what was the alternative to this woman from Auburn taking them in? Put them in a group home? Leave them with the parents whom the court deemed unfit to raise children?
Look, what happened it tragic, and I understand why people are looking for someone to point fingers at. But if you wanna point fingers here, point them at the people who created this child and couldn’t raise them without DCF needing to get involved, not the one who was taking care of them.
I can only speculate what happened here, but I know the children were 2 or 3 years old. This is Turtleboy Jr’s age range, and I can tell you from experience that at this age it is a CONSTANT struggle to keep him from killing himself. Literally all Mrs. Turtleboy and I do is follow him around and save his life repeatedly. Eight or nine times a day we thwart his attempts at suicide. Because kids at that age deliberately choose to do the most dangerous things possible because they don’t know any better.
My educated guess is that the kids got into something that’s under the sink and probably digested something with toxins in it. It was a freak accident that could happen to any mother out there if they looked the other way for a minute or got distracted. I don’t know this as a fact, but based on the fact that a) two children were unresponsive, and b) the mother was clearly caught by surprise, leads me to believe that she loved these kids and didn’t do anything to purposely hurt them.
If you wanna say that a single mother shouldn’t be raising six kids by herself, I can’t argue with you on that one. But my question is, what’s the alternative? Are you adopting them?
Finally, people are blaming DCF as well, and for once, I don’t think it’s their fault at all. What would DCF have done? This woman doesn’t have a past history of abuse. DCF doesn’t have magical powers to prevent accidents in the home.
The bottom line is that it’s a tragic, awful, terrible story and for the sake of humanity I hope that this was all just one big accident.